FEBRUARY NEWSLETTER
The
other day, I was watching an Exira-EHK basketball game, and on the back of the
program I read “10 Things Parents of Athletes Need to Know” (by Stefanie
Mullen). These are the 10 things:
1. It’s not about you, its about them. Do not live your own sports dreams
through your kids. It’s
their turn now. Let them make their own choices, both good and bad.
2. Never talk to a coach about your child’s play time after a game. Actually you
never should. You
should have your kid do that. That said, if you just can’t help yourself,
send an email the next
day and ask for some phone time.
3. NEVER yell at referees. They are trying. How would you like it if someone
came to your job and
screamed at you? Not. So. Much. If you have a real issue file a grievance
the next day.
4. Do NOT coach your kid from the sideline. Your job is to be a cheerleader, not
a coach. If you
wanted to coach, you should have volunteered.
5. It is EXTREMELY UNLIKELY you are raising a professional athlete. I promise
you. Relax, let
them have a good time and learn the lessons they are supposed to be
learning in sports.
6. Kids should play the sport that is in season until they are in middle school.
Then they can decide
which one or two sports they want to play and become more focused. Cross
training prevents
injuries and burnout.
7. If you have nothing nice to say, sit down and be quiet. Don’t be “that”
parent.
8. If you are losing your mind on the sideline of game, it’s time to look in the
mirror and figure out
why. It’s not normal to care that much about sports. Put that energy into
something more
productive.
9. Let them fail. Forgotten equipment, not working out, not practicing at home?
Let them suffer the
consequences of that. It will make them better.
10. Your kids are watching you. Make them proud not embarrassed.
I like that last one. When you are in the stands, not only are you watching your
kids, “your kids are watching you”.
Do you realize that you are a witness, even when you are at a ball game?
As most of you know, I am a big fan of sports, especially our high school
teams. Quite often, when I go to
the games, on the back of my shirt is “PASTOR RON” in big bold letters.
That means, people will look at me and what I do, as an example of what
pastors are like. I am a witness
whether I like it or not.
The question is: “Am I a good witness?”
If I scream and shout at the refs, or curse and swear and get angry with
the other team; then I am a terrible witness, for Christ, for my community, and
for my team. Sadly, this is the
behavior I see and hear far too often at the games, usually from the adults, not
the kids. Whether they don’t
realize the impression they are making, or they don’t care about it; they are
being poor witnesses.
I try to follow the 10 things on the list.
My goal is to always cheer
for my team, never
against the other team or the officials.
Do I always succeed? “Of course not.”
I sometimes question a ref’s decision a little too loudly; but I have
never cheered against an opposing player, at least not intentionally.
It’s not because I’m some kind of angel
or saint. It’s because I’m trying
to be a good witness.
I’m not perfect, far from it. I get
angry at games, and at some things in life.
I can lose hope, and I can get frustrated, at games and in life.
In deed, I really don’t have control over these emotions and thoughts.
This is the bondage to sin that we confess to on Sunday; and we can’t
free ourselves from these emotions or thoughts.
But, I do have some control over how I use these emotions and all my
other sinful thoughts and desires.
I can choose to express them (and yell at the referees); or I can choose to
respect them and honor their decisions.
I try to do the later. When
I fail, I need forgiveness.
I will always be a witness, but I can choose to be a good one.
Remember, you are always a witness, at ball games and in your daily life.
What kind of witness will you be?
Pastor
Ron